marriage life..

When you talk about marriage life, it is a different life.
You can not think it as a long journey of dating, you can not think it as a continuing togetherness, whatever referring to live together better than dating.
Because it is a different life.

I now more understand why people do not want to get married. I do.. Seriously.
Not only understand, more to it, I agree.

Marriage life is complicated.
how? Easy, there are two people acting as they are one. Crazily, actually, there are no two people! It is even more! Count the in laws. Then you have so many people crammed into one institution they called 'marriage'. Crowded, man! If you think there are only two people wanted things, actually there are more people wanted things. Even in the western world where everybody envy the luxury of no-parent-interfering. That's something that most people in east (who lives in east anyway? referring to asia pacific right? - what about middle east? well we talk about that later!) jealous about from western people. Parents are married into your marriage when you got married. Some put their feet deep, and some don't. And you think when they do not come in touch with you when you got married is better? Wrong. See how marriage life is so complicated??

Marriage life is strange.
Why they want to live together when they are happily live alone? One of my priest preach mentioned that there are 3 reasons why people got married.
1. To avoid the obscene sin
2. To have kids
3. mmhh... guess what I forgot.. (and it is only last sunday!)
You got into a fight because each of you have your own thing of doing something, then you both need to get back together, you have to actually, and you are forbidden to be divorced. Come on, seriously, divorced are said to be forbidden.
Strange enough, once you got married you really are tied to that person for the rest of your life. Even though you both already are divorced. Strange as it is.

So many people told so many people how lucky singles are.
Still so many people got married every day!
So many business based on wedding!
So many happiness around wedding.
So many ritual around wedding.
Where all those happiness and ritual lead to a strange and complicated marriage life :)

I am married.
Reason? Still I wonder. I can not put blame into anyone, it is still my superficial decision to get married. May be because my husband lead the way to get married.
I found marriage life is complicated and strange yet fun and interesting.

What about yours?

10 Key Scripture Verses For Courthship and Marriage

10 Key Scripture Verses For Courtship and Marriage (10 Kata Firman Tuhan tentang Pacaran dan Perkawinan) Are you in a relationship with someone?  (courtship or marriage) à then you definitely have to read this. Are you looking for someone and ready for relationship? à then you need to read this. “Each of you should know that finding a husband or wife for yourself is to be done in a holy and honorable way, not in the passionate, lustful way of people who don’t know God. No one should take advantage of or exploit other believers that way.  The Lord is the one who punishes people for all these things.” – 1 Thessalonians 4:4-6a (God’s Word for the Nations) – NIV Bible. “supaya kamu masing-masing mengambil seorang perempuan menjadi isterimu sendiri dan hidup di dalam pengudusan dan penghormatan, bukan di dalam keinginan hawa nafsu, seperti yang dibuat oleh orang-orang yang tidak mengenal Allah, dan supaya dalam hal-hal ini orang jangan memperlakukan saudaranya dengan tidak baik atau memperdayakannya. Karena Tuhan adalah pembalas dari semuanya ini, seperti yang telah kami katakan dan tegaskan dahulu kepadamu.” – 1 Tesalonika 4:4-6A (Alkitab Terjemahan Baru) Bible has all answer to everything. Surely when it comes to love and relationship. These are 10 things what Bible say as guidance about courtship (pacaran) and marriage, what we supposed to do in our relationship. Slow Down and Learn. Proverb 19:2. It is not good to haze zeal (melakukan sesuatu) without knowledge, nor to be hasty(tergesa-gesa) and miss the way. Don’t marry a Non-believer. 2 Corinthians 6:14. Do not be yoked (dipasangkan) together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness (kejahatan) have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? Ask, Seek, and Knock. Luke 11:9. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks,  the door will be opened. Walk as Jesus Did. 1 John 2:3-6. We know that we have to come to know Him if we obey His commands. The man who says, “I know Him,” but does not do what He commands is a liar, and the truth is not in Him. But if anyone obeys His word, God’s love is truly made complete in Him. This is how we know we are in Him: Whoever claims to live in Him must walk as Jesus did. Listen and Slow Down. James 1:19-20. My dear brothers, take not of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. Love is Patient. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Think about Pure Things. Philippians 4:8-9. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me-put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. Be Financially Responsible. Proverbs 22:26-27. Do not be a man who strikes hands in pledge or puts up security for debts; if you lack the means to pay, your very bed will be snatched from under you. Flee from Sin. Galatians 5:19-21. The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the Kingdom of God. Be Faithful. Hebrews 13:4. Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexuality immoral.