Myfatherwisdom

I asked my father one day.
How do you define a man is successful?
He is rich?
My dad answered: no. When that person doing best on what he has chosen. Remember: best effort.

Oma oma... bangga bener ya yah si oma :)

Aku termangu juga akhirnya mendengarkan si oma bercerita. Gak ada titik koma nya pula.
Dia sibuk menceritakan cucunya. Mulai dari gambar sang cucu yg tiap bulannya kepilih jd the best picture of the month

Anaknya dan suaminya yg gak pernah di rumah... kerja terus terusan bahkan weekend... katanya

Cucu cucunya yang diurusin dia terus... pinter2 banget... jago2 gambar...

Anak2nya ga mau tinggal di rumahan maunya apartemen... biar ga pusing sama atap bocor... katanya...

Bangganya dia menceritakan banyaknya uang anak dan suami anaknya....

Hehehehe......

6 October 2016 - Resign

Like they always say...
You always remember your first.
Today is my first time in my life resigning.
Well jalok time I resigned.
But for higher education and the company is about to shut down... so it was not hard at all.
But today, it was very very hard for me.

I cried after.

The feeling was mixed.
Relieved mostly.
But sad... leaving my habit.
Not necessarily my comfort zone
I wanted to obey God who told me to jump.
I am jumping now God... please make sure you remember catching me in mid of your busyness...
Because I know you told me to jump and I need to trust that there will be Your might hands cathcing me..

I cant wait to see what you have in store for me..
I cant wait to get the excitement...
I cant wait to get into the new journey...
Happier... more free... calmer and more peaceful

Leadership learning

25 July 2016

Dalam sales yang jelek seperti sekarang ini.
Hal luar biasa yang berhasil kutemukan untuk hausnya kukuasai dan kupelajari lagi untuk menjadi leader yg tangguh dan pribadi yang hebat,
Yaitu ketika sales jelek, ditekan, bagaimana kita untuk tetep courageous dan be kind.
Pastinya gak gamoang.
Hal yang lucu yang kupelajari dari cinderlla the movie baru2 ini di tv di hotel tempat aku nginap.
holiday inn express Surabaya.

untuk hal lainnya adalah kekompakan, stay cool kepala dingin, dan juga tidak mudah menyerah.
dan fight back.

gay pacaran di new york

Di gereja


Club

Gay club

Jalan pas mau ke club di hell's kitchen

Where is the best place to live?

I never really have experience of live / stay longer than 3 months in many countries. Although in my entire life I lived in few different cities.

It is interesting to see that my kind of "best place" to live is different within the phase in my life...
Iwas born in Palembang, Sumatera Island, in Indonesia.
Growing up in Bontang, East Kalimantan, Kalimantan Island, Indonesia.
Going for university in Capital of Indonesia, Jakarta.
Worked there a year and moved to new york city for almost 3 years.
A very good experience in life, living in new york.
Changed my perspective a lot.
A lot if I can say.
About life, about people, about everything.
Shaped me up real big, real big.

Going back to Jakarta, lived in Jakarta and one time in my life, I was moved by the company to Singapore and stayed there for a year.
A very good experience.

However, it didnt changed much of my perspective in life.
However changed my perspective on singaporean, a lot.

I like semarang a lot. I dont know why. For me that city is special.
Bandung, too crowded now, but used to be one of my fave city.

If you asked me, which place in the world you think is the best place to live?
It really depends, and currently if you asked me now, I think Jakarta is.

Nefsong parents - 30 april 2016

Nefsong parents.

That is my created nick name for parents at my daughter's school, who are very agressive in competitiveness.

I dont know what they missed in their time in the past which cause them to act like that.

You know, ones who do not stay or form a queue line. All feels like would be beaten by others and their kids would miss the opportunity.

Ones who keep asking question to the instructor on how they are doi g if it is okay or not... during a parent child workshop in the middle of instructor explaining to the whole group on tje steps.

Parents who take over their supposedly called work of parent child pair, to finish the work successfully. There are ones who didnt even let the son or daughter to touch it from beginning hahahaha..

Parents who are in the science competition bringing the whole meth lab to the room, while their child starring blank at their supposedly called tandem presentation.

Parents who proudly with big smile walking out of school building with more than 1 throphy, and holding it high...

Parents who stand and sit in front of kids and other parents just so theu could take picture of their children performance

It really does make me wonder. Am i one of them?

30 april 2016 science competition

Science competition

Hai hai hai hai.. I have a story.. :p and I have to share it on facebook!
Read this carefully Irene Simanjuntak.. and try to be in my shoes!!!

Today was science day at my daughter school.
We had decided (i and she) that we would join science and pancake decorating competition.
After a long hot crowded with too many nefsong parents, I was quite exhausted and arrived at room for science competition.
"Okay miss i'd like to re-register theresia"
The teacher replied "Oh.. ya mom.. theresia victoria right?
"Yep"
And the she looked at my empty hand.
"Maam... you do know that you have to bring your own experiment tools right?
"Ah..... seriously?
"Yes maam... we already informed parents with the green sheet in her com book..... etc  etc..." she was defensive hahahahaha
I was just starring at her blank.
"So maam... since you obviously not ready... can i consider theresia to withdraw from this competition?"

I dont know which part pushed my button.
The fact that I missed my daughter "green sheet" info
Or
The sound of my daughter name has to withdraw
Or
The word science.

"No... sorry miss.. noo.. we will still doing it. I am a scientist, i will figure it out!"

And my brain was pushed hard to think of any simple science in everyday life which cool. Think... think... think....

Got it. Solution. Chemistry!

I rushed myself to the nearest mart and got cups... sugar... water... and plastic spoon.

The concept was simple. But to pull my daugther into it was not easy.

Solute and solvent. What are the factors that make the solute dissolve faster?
2 of factors are temperature and stirring.
Im sure you understand what I was saying...

Long story short.... I was shocked to see competitors before me....
One brought this fancy test tubes and its rack.
Mortyr and all kind of lime and lemon and purple vegetables that they looked like they were creating different kind of elixir and cough syrup man!!!

The other one (we were the last candidate of course) brought in fancy science experiment test bought at the science counter,  and I saw they played with creting liquid gas!!!

Another one brought big baker glass out of room with high smirk!!!!

Tsdk.tsk.ck.ck.ck.tsk...

When we got in. I was nervous! Of course the juries... two smart looking lady (scientist... not teachers)... understand right away when i started by saying... today theresia is going to show a simple chemistry experiment of.. solution.
Solvent is water.
Solute is sugar.
And we want to show how 2 factors affecting... ... ... .... it didny went as well as i expected.
The juries helped me to get thwresia inolve in the experiment... i was almost throw white flags to the air, man....
At the end...it was a.mixed feeling. I know we can do better next time. But somehow... i was happy. We didnt give up so easily. And I am happy that deep inside me, a scientist that i used to know still live. :p

Generasi "home" service katanya

I like this article. I learned first from what I experienced. For example, when I was a kid, I was told that studying is most important than my daily house chores, so it could be put aside. In reality of life, it is a matter of time management. The greater the pressure, the better person that child becomes.

I dont totally agree with this writing but I share the same concern. Thanks to one of seminar held by Penabur, I now very much into : creating diligent kids.

Anak pintar bukan tujuan kita sekolahkan anak, karena mereka sudah sangat pintar sebenarnya. Anak rajin, itu yang nilainya mahal, dan sangat berat tantangan bagi orangtua muda kebanyakan di Indonesia saat ini. Karena secara umum generasi di bawahku lahir di masa ekonomi yg lebih baik dari generasiku dan generasiku lahir di jaman yg lebih mudah dari jamannya generasi orangtua kita.
Sehingga pola pengasuhan pastinya berbeda karena situasinya sudah sangat berbeda. Sehingga terciptalah model "home service" kaya artikek di bawah.

Tanpa nge judge siapa pun (termasuk diri sendiri), sudah oke belon ya cara kita mendidik anak?
Belajar bagaimana menciptakan anak rajin adalah tantangan yg luar biasa menurut ku. Karena berarti aku yg harus rajin duluan... alamakkk.... susah deeehhh...

"Mbaaaaakkk... aku lupa handukku, tolong ambilin dong.....

Kega - akhirnya....

 

KEGA

Konsel Gereja Anak, atau lebih sering disebut dengan KEGA di gereja Abba Love, memkikat hati saya dan papinya Theresia.

Sekilas nampak hanya seperti sekolah minggu biasa.

Anak anak kecil berkumpul sesuai dengan kelompok umurnya dan kemudian mereka dilayani oleh para kakak kakak yang dengan senang hati meladeni mereka.

Tapi.... tunggu dulu....

coba diperhatikan lebih dekat....

Kakak kakak yang akan mengajar terlihat begitu perhatian pada anak yang datang dan... perbedaannya adalah, mereka tidak ada di situ untuk meladeni mereka, tetapi berusaha untuk mempengaruhi anak anak tersebut untuk menjadi anggota aktif di dalamnya...

Begini lah pengalaman kami...

Setelah mendengar bagaimana anak anak Kega dibentuk dan melayani sesamanya (sesama anak anak), kami kagum sekali melihat buahnya di depan mata. Makanya kami mendoakan agar Theresia kecil dapat segera ikut Kega.

Tapi kenyataannya,... susah banget ninggalin Theresia di Kega. Beberapa saat kami ikut kelas SPK pada saat yang bersamaan Theresia harus Kega. Kami bujuk supaya ia mau kami tinggal dan ikut di kelas tersebut,.. dia gak mau. Susah sekali, untung sekali pada suatu saat salah satu kakak sekolah minggu berhasil membujuknya untuk stay sendiri setelah kami jelaskan kami harus pelayanan di SPK. Tetapi ujungnya berakhir dengan dia mencari kami pada saat bubar kelas bersama satpam hehehe..

Sejak itu dia lebih suka ikut ke ibdaha raya orang dewasa dan masuk ke ruang kaca - ruang untuk para orang yang membawa bayi..dan menjadi termasuk anak paling besar yang ada dalam ruangan itu.

Akhirnya 3 minggu lalu, kami kembali mengulang, menawarkan theresia untuk ke kega. Kali ini kami berkeseimpulan, bahwa dia harus ditemani. Memang sih kebanyakan temennya masih pada ditemenin suster atau ibunya atau bapaknya. Akhinya kami putuskan bapaknya yang akan menemani. Dan theresia memang lebih suka bapaknya yang menuggui hehehe kali kalau emaknya dia males dicerewetin.

Awalnya berat banget karena theresia sama sekali gak mau aktif berpartisipasi.

Bapaknya langsung mendatangi para kakak kakak dan menceritakan bahwa sudah 1 tahun kami mengusahakan supaya theresia mau kega.

Luar biasa,,.. salut sama kakak kakak tersebut...

Mereka berusaha bergantian mendatangi tehresia dengan cara masing masing supaya ia mau aktif... setelah 5 putaran usaha dari kakak kakak dengan cara yang tidak ngotot, kalau theresia mukanya dah cemberut langsung kakak meninggalkan tidak mengganggu atau maksa... akhirnya rupanya luluh juga dia.... setelah 5 kali didatengin.

Luar biasa, sang kakak bisa bahkan meminta theresia memimpin doa pembukaan... bersama kakak kakak itu, kemudian melayani berkeliling mengedarkan kantong persembahan bahkan juga memimpin doa penututp.

Dan dia melakukannya dengan sangat baik...

Luar biasa....

Jujur, yang aku suka dari Kega adalah bahwa mereka bukan sekolah minggu tetapi gereja anak. Jadi pelayannya adalah anak anak itu sendiri juga.

Seperti contohnya theresia tadi.

Lebih besar sedikit maka anak anak itu akan tumpang tangan berdoa bagi temannya sendiri, melayani firman, melayani memimpin musik, dan lain sebagainya...

Ah... membayangkan anak kecil sudah melayani Tuhan seperti itu indah sekali... 

mimpi kami supaya Theresia tekun di Kega...

Ujiannya? Minggu besok.... apakah dia masih mau kega... hehehehehehe

Let's see.....

Bed time story

Semua orang mengagungkan baiknya bed time story buat si kecil.
Tapi pada kenyataan pelaksanaan, gak segampang manis di bibir..banyak tantangan.
Kalau dari si kecil sih gak banyak karena dia selalu semangat untuk dibacakan cerita.
Masalah terbesar ada di orang tuanya..hehehe 😊 apalagi saya.
Kalau saya, sudah mempersiapkan banyak sekali buku cerita untuk dibacakan, saat gilirannya tiba, membacakannya sih menyenangkan. Tapiiiii selalu saja saya lebih dulu yang mengantuk daripada yg dibacakan cerita... sehingga si kecil kadang kesal menanti cerita di tengah tengah eh sayanya mulai redup redup mata dan suaranya apalagi kalau mogok di tengah karena tertidur sementara dia masih sangat nafsu mendengarkan hahahaha...